You Living You
Telehealth Psychology for Diverse Minds
Secure & Safe in your own Space
Strengths-Based Telehealth Counselling To Reach Your Full Potential
LGBTIQA+ and Neurodiversity Affirming
Connect with Principal Psychologist Paul Martin, who brings both professional expertise and lived experience as a queer ADHDer.
Embrace Your Whole Self
Your identity is unique and multifaceted. Explore how different parts of you intersect to shape your distinctive journey and experiences.
Reclaim Your Power
Break free from past harm, rebuild your confidence, and step into the life you deserve – with expert, judgment-free guidance.
A Truly Safe Space
Whether you’re LGBTIQ+, straight, cisgender, neurodivergent, or simply seeking a space where you’ll feel understood – you’re in the right place.
About Paul Martin
Owner and Principal Psychologist
Pioneer in LGBTQ+ Mental Health & Advocacy
As a queer, neurodivergent psychologist with ADHD, Paul knows firsthand how challenging it can be to navigate a world that often misunderstands difference. His own experiences have shaped his deep commitment to creating meaningful change for others.
Clients describe Paul’s counseling style as warm, authentic, and deeply compassionate. He strives to create a space where clients feel safe, heard, and understood. His goal is to foster a strong therapeutic connection that helps clients experience real and lasting transformation.
Paul's Services
At You Living You, Paul offers online telehealth counselling for adults, couples, and diverse relationships, focusing on the unique intersections of LGBTQ+ identities, neurodivergence, cultural diversity, and relationship dynamics.
Individual Therapy
✔ Healing from Complex Trauma – Supporting individuals in processing deep emotional wounds and the lasting impact of past experiences.
✔Overcoming Anxiety & Self-Doubt – Breaking free from fear, negative thought patterns, and internalised shame.
✔ Navigating Neurodiversity – ADHD & autism pre-screening and affirming support.
✔ Embracing Sexual Expression Without Shame – Providing an affirming space for individuals exploring kink, BDSM, and M/S dynamics to foster self-acceptance and authenticity.
Couples Therapy
✔ Enhancing Connection & Intimacy – Strengthening emotional closeness, trust, and physical or romantic intimacy.
✔ Managing Conflict Effectively – Equipping couples with tools to navigate misunderstandings and reduce reactivity.
✔ Addressing External Challenges – Supporting couples in managing family dynamics, societal pressures, and workplace stressors that impact their relationship.
✔ Exploring Sexual & Gender Diversity in Marriage – Supporting couples as they navigate evolving identities within a heterosexual partnership.
Enhancing Connection & Intimacy – Strengthening emotional closeness, trust, and physical or romantic intimacy.
Managing Conflict Effectively – Equipping couples with tools to navigate misunderstandings, reduce reactivity, and communicate with clarity and care.
Addressing External Challenges – Supporting couples in managing family dynamics, societal pressures, and workplace stressors that impact their relationship.
Exploring Sexual & Gender Diversity in Marriage – Supporting couples as they navigate evolving identities within a heterosexual partnership, fostering authenticity and understanding.
Diverse Relationships
✔ Neurodivergent Couples Therapy – Helping partners navigate sensory differences, emotional regulation, and unique communication styles for deeper connection.
✔ LGBTIQ+ Relationship Counseling – Providing affirming support for sexual and gender identity exploration, intimacy, and external pressures affecting relationships.
✔ Polyamory & Consensual Non-Monogamy – Guiding partners in ethical non-monogamy, boundary setting, and managing complex relationship dynamics.
ADHD and Autism Support
Paul’s neurodivergent-affirming consultations can help you:
✔ Manage executive functioning challenges
✔ Build self-compassion and reframe negative self-beliefs
✔ Understand sensory sensitivities and reduce overwhelm
✔ Navigate emotional regulation, masking, and burnout
LGBTQIA+ Affirming Care
Paul provides a safe space to explore, question, or affirm your gender identity and sexual orientation.
✔ Navigate coming out, transitioning, or expressing your identity.
✔ Work through internalized shame, societal expectations, and external pressures.
✔ Build self-acceptance and confidence in your authentic self.
Workplace Support and Advocacy
Paul offers compassionate support to navigate challenges in the workplace.
✔ Strategies for navigating workplace expectations, burnout, and executive dysfunction.
✔ Support in dealing with microaggressions, discrimination, or workplace stress.
✔ Guidance on self-advocacy and requesting workplace accommodations.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Are Paul's Credentials And Experience?
Paul Martin is a highly respected psychologist and advocate who brings over 30 years of expertise. He is renowned for establishing one of Australia’s first LGBTIQ+ focused mental health practices and frequently contributes to conferences, media and psychological literature. Paul holds full registration with the Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency (AHPRA) as a psychologist and is a member of the Australian Psychological Society (APS).
Why Choose Telehealth Counselling?
Telehealth offers convenience, flexibility, and easy access to support. Research shows that telehealth counselling is just as effective as in-person sessions, providing the same therapeutic benefits while allowing you to connect from the comfort of your own space. With Paul, you’ll receive the same high-quality, personalised care through telehealth as you would in a traditional therapy setting.
How Do I Book An Appointment With Paul?
Booking an appointment with You Living You is simple:
• Visit our website and click “Book Now”.
• You’ll be directed to our user-friendly, secure client portal.
• New clients can easily create an account to schedule sessions.
• Existing clients can book, amend, and manage appointments via the portal.
Alternatively, email hello@ to book through our clinic manager, Louise.
Note: A referral is not required to book. However, to claim Medicare rebates, you will need a Mental Health Care Plan from your GP.
How Long Is Each Session With Paul?
Sessions typically last 50 minutes, giving ample time to explore your therapeutic needs.
Can I Use Medicare Or Private Health Insurance?
Yes. If you have a Mental Health Care Plan, you can access rebates for up to 10 sessions per calendar year through Medicare. Private health insurance rebates may also be available depending on your policy – please check with your provider.
Does Paul See NDIS participants?
Yes, we provide tailored psychological support to NDIS participants who are self-managed or plan-managed.
What Is The Cancellation Policy at You Living You?
We require at least 24 hours’ notice to cancel or reschedule your appointment. Late cancellations or missed sessions may incur a cancellation fee.
Who Can I Call In An Emergency?
We do not provide emergency or crisis intervention services. If you’re experiencing a crisis or need urgent support, please immediately call emergency services on 000, or contact support services like:
• Lifeline: 13 11 14
• Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636