A Psychologist who Truly Gets It.

Paul Martin is a queer, neurodivergent (ADHDer) psychologist who brings both personal and professional insight to his work. He understands what it’s like to be misunderstood, mistreated, and pressured to change – because he’s lived it. His journey through healing and self-acceptance led him to a clear purpose:

To help others live their beautifully unique lives, free from shame and full of possibility.

“Nature loves diversity. Unfortunately, society hates it.”  – Milton Diamond

This quote fuels Paul’s work – to create space for people to be exactly who they are, without needing to fit into narrow expectations.

 

A Chapter of Struggle and Awakening

Raised in a conservative Christian environment, Paul came out as gay in his early 20s—marking the beginning of a painful journey that included:

  • Antipsychotic medication aimed at suppressing his identity

  • Exorcisms and conversion therapy practices

  • Leadership in the ex-gay movement, before recognising the harm it caused to himself and others

Turning Pain Into Purpose

Paul used his lived experience to become a force for change:

  • Becoming a psychologist and founding one of Australia’s first large, LGBTIQ+ affirming practices

  • Helping others reclaim their sense of self

  • Advocating for awareness, acceptance, and healing within the LGBTIQ+ community

Advocacy and Impact

Paul’s influence extends well beyond the therapy room:

  • Featured on national TV, radio, in magazines, and documentaries

  • Contributor to published books and frequent speaker at conferences and training events

  • Supervisor and mentor to affirming psychologists

  • Leader in campaigns to end conversion practices

  • Key contributor to Australia’s marriage equality movement

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Paul’s Approach

Paul’s counselling style is relaxed, genuine, and warmly inviting. He quickly puts people at ease and builds trust, creating space for deep emotional safety.

Clients often say they feel truly seen and cared for, thanks to his empathetic, compassionate, and non-judgmental approach. This strong therapeutic relationship becomes a foundation for meaningful, transformative work — whether with individuals, couples, or people in polyamorous relationships.

Paul looks forward to welcoming you to You Living You – a space where you can feel safe, valued, and fully supported to be yourself.